Tell the devil I said “hey” when you get back to where you're from.

In all relationships, is there always one person who likes the other more?

The Tormentors: Unable to confront them

I was reading a short article in the Mirror.co.uk concerning the continuous nuisance of bullying.  I was reminded of a girl I know who was frequently bullied in her secondary school.

I really dislike the word ‘bullying,’ phonetically and semantically it creates connotations of immorality, unfairness, cruel, wickedness and perhaps evil. 

Victims for bullies are often stereotypes, yet my friend has a different and more distasteful reason to be picked on.  Facial Deformity and being one of the “special kids” was her vindication to years of torment.

It’s completely unfair.

The upset I got from hearing her crying is nothing compared to the troubled life she lived at school.

Sometimes I imagine the bullies ill-treating her and wonder why they do it.  These people are cowards and it is times like this when I want to believe in karma.  

She didn’t deserve that.  No one deserves that.

Every week we talked on Facebook, and I kept encouraging her to tell her teachers what was going on; eventually she did and the teachers said to tell them if the problem was persistent. 

In her last years of school the bullying still occurred, but was less severe.  Her relentless reports of hating school began to dwindle yet I feel guilty that I did not do enough to stop it from happening. 

Now I am pleased to say, I saw her recently and she is enjoying college and is becoming more ambitious in her future career.

I genuinely look forward to hearing her updates on life and hope they will be optimistic.

Reference: http://www.mirror.co.uk/celebs/news/2011/01/07/coleen-nolan-on-school-bullying-verdict-115875-22831288/

Inadequate Resolutions

Every year I get invited to a friends house to bring in the new year, but I know I will never go.

I celebrate every New Year with my family, and I wouldn't change it for anything.  

When my friends heard I was working in my uncle's pub (The Dunkirk Inn, Nottingham) they gave me a sigh as though they felt bad for me; on the contrary I was very excited.  The reason for this predictable sigh is because I kept using the word 'work' or 'behind the bar' as to what I was doing.

Only now am I realising that negative connotations come from those words; I will have to consider my choice of vocabulary for next year.  

Whilst in Nottingham, after pretending to to know the lyrics of Auld Lang Syne and the many Jägerbombs consumed; I took a step back from reality and realised I hadn't made any new year resolutions.  They are tradition, whether you stick to them or not.

I find showering is the best time to be alone with yourself and catch up with your thoughts.  Today, about midday I showered and came up with my resolutions and wrote them on the steamed wall. 

The usual, get fit, study harder... But I discovered that my real resolution is to become motivated, to actually abide by the resolutions.  

So how do you become motivated?  My brothers response was a few 'erm's' and stuttered words.  I thought he would help me as he studied motivation for part of his dissertation.  Fifa 2011, on the other hand is a very good distraction.  

What I find interesting are the people who do stick to their yearly vows and how they accomplish them.

I wonder if on the 31st of December, there are people who do take a moment to reflect, not on what the year brought them, but on the promises they made at the beginning; and can honestly have pride in their success.